My clients can benefit from therapeutic intervention for a variety of difficulties or concerns.
For children, these could include incontinence problems, behavioural problems, separation anxiety, feeding and sleeping issues, abuse, trauma, etc.
Common areas of difficulty for adolescents may include boy/girlfriend and friendship problems, break-ups, emotional difficulties, battles with parents, self-esteem and confidence issues, eating or self-image problems.
For others, you may seek counselling for conflict and anger management concerns, trauma or crisis, unplanned pregnancy problems, decision-making difficulties, depression or anxiety problems, child-rearing difficulties, problems adjusting to changes in your life… The list is endless.
No problem is ‘too big’ or ‘too small’ to warrant you seeking help.
Some people attend therapy to get to know themselves on a deeper level. When someone asks you how you are doing, I bet you often reply, “Busy”.
Life is fast-paced and we may get into the habit of neglecting ourselves and our development just to keep up with all of our responsibilities. Personal development can provide you a chance to process and evaluate your life choices, attitudes, values and accomplishments.
This process can also involve getting to know who you are and how you tick – with increased awareness of how you function, you can start to take control of and responsibility in areas that you may feel are currently beyond your control.
Grief is a battle that no one knows now to face. We are not taught how to grieve and are often told what we should or ought to be feeling or doing. All you need to know is that you are not doing it wrong…
In bereavement counselling, I walk with you through your own grief journey. You may not know where it may lead or what you may face along the way (and I certainly do not know, either) but in therapy, you will have someone with you who will help you feel less isolated and more validated during this difficult time.
Ever heard the adage, “A picture is worth a thousand words”?
I believe that art can capture what words cannot. Art therapy allows you the freedom and the space to express yourself. You do not have to consider yourself artistic or creative to enjoy the benefits and revelations that art therapy can generate.
Dr. Martin Rossman, a physician, suggests in his book Healing Yourself (1987) that, “Imagery is a flow of thoughts you can see, hear, feel, smell, or taste. An image is an inner representation of your experience or your fantasies – a way your mind codes, stores, and expresses information. Imagery is the currency of dreams and daydreams; memories and reminiscence; plans, projections, and possibilities. It is the language of the arts, the emotions, and most important, of the deeper self”.
Imagery is thus a very powerful artistic tool when it comes to creative expression; it articulates the deeper self in such a way that it goes beyond words and even emotions can elucidate.
Art and image-making has the possibility to bring about self-awareness, catharsis, healing and transformation. It is also what you make of it. The art therapy space is one in which you create and explore exactly what you want and need to. There is no need to be self-conscious in this space, as it is not the product which is evaluated but the meaning behind the making; the experience of the process that is the key.
I offer a range of assessments that can benefit both children and adults. These include AD/HD assessments, IQ assessments, Career (Aptitude) and Subject Choice assessments.
Assessment measures that I most commonly use include the Conners III (to detect the probability of AD/HD in children and adults), the WAIS-IV (an adult intelligence scale), the WISC-IV (an intelligence scale for children), the Raven’s Matrices (used for intelligencetesting and abstract reasoning), the Bender II (used to detect neurological and/or emotional problems), the Rey Complex Figure Test (used to detect memory and visual-perceptual problems), the Self-Directed-Search (to uncover your aptitude) and the Jung Personality Questionnaire (the uncover your personality style).
According to your needs, I tailor assessment batteries to suit your purpose and your pocket.
Play therapy is an intervention known to work very well with children. Oftentimes, children cannot or do not know how to use words to communicate their feelings and fears. The language they are most comfortable and familiar with is play.
Children are resilient but also fragile. Sometimes, we may miss what they are telling us. Providing them the opportunity to express themselves in a safe environment can be truly enlightening and fulfilling – both for the parent(s) and for the child.
The biggest myth about relationships is that they should be easy; compared to troubles at work, problems with in-laws or money, your romantic relationship should be a cinch. On the contrary, relationships are very hard work. Make no mistake that if you are feeling tired of fighting for your relationship or battling daily to keep it alive, you are on the right track, and you are not alone.
The decision to go to couples counselling can be a scary one. Most couples take about six years to attend therapy, by which time the relationship has seriously unravelled and the communication severely deteriorated. Most couples (whether married or not) attend therapy as a last resort. Couples therapy can bring many revelations to the surface and many unsaid sentiments into the light. I provide a safe space for exactly this.
Communication is commonly the first element to break down when couples are distressed. Oftentimes, couples are in conflict and cannot reach adequate resolutions. This leads to resentment, misunderstanding and hopelessness, let alone exhaustion.
I tailor intervention according to a couple’s needs. I may take a psychodynamic approach in the way of Object Relations therapy as well as Emotionally Focussed Therapy, where we delve into each of your past relationships (romantic and other) and interpret patterns and meanings attributed to the situation you currently find yourselves in. At other times, I may utilise the Imago couples approach, which entails (among other things) learning to listen, validate and start to truly understand one another.
My take on couples’ intervention commonly involves conflict resolution and an investigation of love languages. By learning to resolve conflict in a healthy way (no, it cannot and should not be avoided) and speak the same love language, misunderstandings and hurts can decrease drastically. This can be very satisfying indeed.
I may also address a range of issues that couples often struggle with, which include financial problems, child-rearing differences, household and responsibility management concerns, romance and sex, independence issues, and occupational progress and stressors.
For engaged couples, I offer premarital counselling in order to prepare you for one of the most dynamic, heart-wrenching, scary, magical and satisfying journeys of your life. One can never be over-prepared when it comes to the commitment of marriage.